I can't remember if I had written a post about this subject before, but have you ever heard of the book The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman? The basic concept is that people communicate and display love in very different ways. The five love languages are Physical Touch, Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Giving Gifts, and Quality Time.
I had never considered that every single person has a primary love language until I read the book, which I highly recommend! I use a nickname for this called "filling our individual love tanks." We each have one primary love language but most of the time, we can have a combination of two or even three.
For example, my husband's love language is physical touch. He may not need to be given a gift to feel most loved, but a simple hug can make his day. When he feels down in the dumps, just a few minutes of cuddling on the couch can make him happy again.
My daughter's love language is quality time. And it is really amazing how even little kids have their own special love language. She doesn't really care for physical touch or snuggle time, but when we spend one on one time with her, whether it is painting a picture together or doing a puzzle or playing outside, that makes her feel SO important and so happy. In fact, I was just painting with her, just me and her, and she was so happy about that that she looked up at me and said, "I love you so much, Mom." =) So I have to make double sure that each day, her "love tank" gets full by spending much time with her.
My son is only 6 months old, so there's some time to learn what his will be, but for now just like any other baby, he loves to be held close. He loves it when I am holding him because I am his main source of comfort for now.
My love language kind of balances between Words of Affirmation and Giving Gifts. If I want you to know I love you or appreciate you, I normally will give you something or tell you how important you are to me, that sort of thing. I could care less about a hug or a kiss honestly.
How about you, what are your love languages? =)
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